The Book of Wisdom
Teaching # 10
Teens, sex and parenting
1. Parenting is a gift and a skill at the same time. Having a child will qualify one to be a father or mother, but parenting runs much deeper than this. Almighty God has not called mankind to be only fathers or mothers, but they were called to be parents, a parent is a child raiser. If you are not raising, or have not raised your children because of delinquency, you are not a parent.
2. It may seem a hard thing for teenagers to stay away from premarital sex but it is not impossible. All of the teenagers in the Gardens of Eden did. Why? Their parents, teachers and by extension the entire society were their examples and tutors, it is not left up to them. We grow up in a society where talking about sex is seen as a subject to avoid. We tell our children to stay away from drugs, bad company, alcohol, but few tell them to stay away from premarital sex. This is why we have so many abortions and sexually transmitted diseases on the earth, delinquent parents and wards are often the cause of this.
3. Parents should tell their children everything surrounding sex, giving them also the precautions. Many teenagers are fascinated by driving, many parents give them tips, but also advise them to wait until they acquire the necessary license to go on the road. Is it so hard to tell them that sex requires a marriage license?
4. If we are going to get this earth again up to Almighty God's standards, we have to pay more attention to the youths and their sexuality. We are living in an age where children are giving birth to children and this is accepted as the norm. Many schools do not have sex education on their curriculum, they have all the other academics, but a child born to a child before academics, can destroy all the elements involved in schooling. If we can also blend those subjects in with covenant studies, we would have set the tone to firmly establish that teenage student for life. Every instance where a school child is late, the teacher's duty is to check with the parents to find out the legitimacy of that lateness, this also goes for absenteeism. The teacher and the parents should have such a close relationship, that there is no room for waywardness.
5. Tell them everything which surrounds sex, the dangers, the cautions, the diseases and the pleasures. Counsel them also on healthy lifestyles, courtship, relationships, rejection and what to look for in a prospective husband or wife. Do not see such subjects as unimportant or trivial, such will balance all the other disciplines and by extension the society.
6. Just as we call a hand and a foot by they rightful respectful names, get the children at an early age to address everything surrounding sex by their rightful, respectful names and they will have more respect for them. Sexuality should be seen as such an important part of life that children should be taught only to address its many tenants by their GOD given names.
7. Where do babies come from? I have heard nonsense like, from a stork, or from an airplane. Just as we have counselors for everything else, some parents also need counseling on how to deliver such subjects. I am sure many pastors and health workers who are trained in child counselling can help. This world needs all the help it can get to pull it out of this rut it is presently in, there is nothing wrong with seeking such services, every little help will prove valuable.
8. Tell your children that the filth that is now aired on the airways mostly in what is called rap, hip hop and those many cheap calypsos, are not the lyrics which decent people should be singing and that the masses cannot get any inspiration from them. Also tell them that if they want to be popular in song, to try writing lyrics that can advance this world and make it a better place. Tell them that the poorly clad females and their ungodly behaviour on such videos, along with those females called 'dance hall queens', MUST not be emulated and will cause them to go to hell. Almost all the cheap calypsos I am now hearing in my part of this world is about unhealthy sex and ungodly living. This shows that the writers are very limited spiritually and socially even though some of them may be educated. The fact that such songs are earning thousands tells the state of the minds of the people of this world presently.
9. Gone are the days when parents gave their children a directive once, it must be sometimes half of a dozen times and if the child does not comply, it seems alright. I remember the days when my grandmother only spoke once, or she would just give me 'the look', and it was done. It makes me wonder who is at fault today, the child or the parents. Many things in life will change, but raising a child properly will never change.
10. Parents also should pay keen interest in who their children are dating and have conversations with them. This is the only way you should be comfortable allowing your child to spend time alone with someone of the opposite sex. You would not want your child to go out with a stranger, so do not let that person be a stranger to you. This will also help in combating the common problem in smaller societies where children unknowingly date their own relatives. Get to know them! When you find that something seems suspicious, discuss it, never use dirty expressions to a child, instead of this closing the gap it creates a crater. A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. And, ye parents, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of Almighty God. This is what most of the children today need.
11. The parent's responsibility is to raise a child from birth to high teens, do not give your preteen to any man or woman to be 'married', this is poor parenting to the fullest. When you give your child to a man or woman, your child should be fully trained and mature enough to take on such a great responsibility. I have seen the many young lives which were destroyed by those 'marriages', such were not ordained by Almighty God. Also instill in your children from early that a marriage is between one man and one woman, and they should not 'marry' anyone who is presently married, polygamy was not ordained by Almighty God. If this world is to go forward we have to again do things Almighty God's way and not by culture or convenience. If children are our future, we must pay by far more attention to our future generations than we have been doing.
12. Do not 'marry' your child to another child under any circumstance, marriage is for adults only. Almighty God has introduce courtship into this world so that a man or a woman can choose their own partner. You do not know if the other child would grow up to be a criminal. When such marriages fail, who does the child blame? The poor parents, this is poor parenting at its highest.
13. A good healthy relationship with your children solves many of their preteen and teenage challenges. Most of all tell your children you love them and want the best for them. Flogging says this the loudest. He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. One other thing you should never ever try to do is be your child's best friend, this will never turn out right. Being a parent is what you were called to be. Also any person who gets pregnant before the age of eighteen was not called to be a parent, they elected themselves.
14. I know that your Supreme Courts and your many committees on the rights of the child have gone against every law which the Supreme Being has laid down for proper child rearing, but Almighty God's word is what is needed for the replenishing of the earth. For many years you have tried it the Supreme Courts and child committee's way and ended up building more prisons. Is it not time to again try it the Supreme Being's way?
15. The book of Proverbs was once called the 'Child Rearer'. Generation after generation used it and produced a Godly generation, but sadly you took it out of the schools with the result being a rebellious generation, with no respect for Almighty God nor man. For a parent or teacher to past on this knowledge, he must first know it well. A pastor should be assigned to every school just like a Math teacher. Just as every student attends Math for a period, they should also attend Covenant Studies. Math elevates them to university, Covenant Studies to heaven. As in every other discipline, a student must be prepared to be a preacher from school. This is the will of Almighty God.
16. From early also tell them about the dangers of drugs, gambling, illegal guns and excessive alcohol consumption. If possible, show them the outcome of such users. Every parent should take a look at all their children who are now, or were involved with drugs, weapons, murder, rape, or any other ungodly acts, and are menaces or a threat to society. Ask yourself if you have fully played your part as a good parent. The act of parenting produces a society, look around at the society you are living in today, and you be the judge. Train up the child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Single parenting is no excuse for a poorly raised child, actually there is no excuse for a poorly raised child.
17. Teach them from early the importance of telling the truth, a person who lives a wholesome, spiritual life, has no need to lie, there is nothing to cover up. Instill in them that stealing is wrong and how important it is to be trustworthy and to have a good reputation. Instill in them they must uphold the laws of the land. Peer pressure and bullying must not be left out of your many instructions, those two predators have destroyed many children's lives. Your children are not to be the perpetrators nor the victims. Instill in them that fighting is wrong. Teach them also to have respect for Almighty God's creation. Tell them that injuring animals is not a sport but a sin, and that all who injure an animal, and also those who cheer such ignorant people on, even those attending such events will not see heaven. Tell them only fools run in front of bulls, and those foolish men and women that are killed or injured, GOD sends them back to the earth crippled for not having respect for the healthy body He gave then before.
18. Too many times I have seen parents go to a school to fight with teachers, headmasters and even with other students. An ignorant parent is a child's downfall, but a wise parent listens first and then judges a situation. Every situation in a school can be resolved without this commotion which never once ended favourably for the child. Also teach them to adhere to the laws of the land and respect government property such as buses, bus sheds and washrooms. Also teach them to respect personal signs. I remember being in a foreign country with some adults where a sign read 'Do not take food from the dining room'. I had the authority to speak to them concerning this. Those men and women without having much parental guidance, banded together and made what I spoke to them about seem as if I had committed a crime. They still carried on with their unmannerly behaviour. How can such then raise children properly? Seek to raise your children to have more training than such. Also teach them to respect authority.
19. When a child is going to school, he or she is called a child and not an adult. Can you parents always give an account of the whereabouts of your school child or children? As a police officer, I have seen school children in wild parties after one in the morning where there were guns and drugs, filthy lyrics playing, and many other ungodly acts and the parents were sleeping peacefully at home. How can this be? All such parents should be charged with abandonment. This definitely is poor parenting. You parents, who are caretakers of animals, when evening comes, you bring your young animals into the back yard for their own safety and protection. Does your young school child not deserve this same protection? The club owners are too busy to look after those children you abandon, to them they are just another patron. Who will take care of them for you? Many times it end up being the prison wardens, or the morticians. If every parent looked after their children with more care, this world would be a far better place to live in. Poor parenting destroys a society and by extension the world.
20. Children will make mistakes, but the worst thing that a parent can say when a child makes a mistake is to tell him he is just like his wayward mother or father. That child did not choose his mother or father, you did. Children must not be compared to other children, even identical twins carry different souls, no two souls develop at the same rate. Do not praise one child and neglect the other, all children need to have self-worth. If you have two or more children, try as much as possible to treat them all equally.
21. Do not allow your school child to join any organization at school or any other place where he or she is allowed to carry a gun, whether supervised or not, this is poor parenting. Also tell them from early that taking a life is a sin, and joining the army where they are given the order to kill is also a sin. Tell them that soldiers do not go to heaven and that men that are at their peak of discipline do not carry guns.
22. All adults must understand that when they fall in love or marry someone who has children, those children become a part of them, they too must play their part in the rearing of those children. Almighty God will judge step-fathers and step-mothers and foster parents as He will mothers and fathers.
23. When I use the word parenting, this extends as far as godparents, grandparents, uncles, aunts and Godly neighbours. If any of these see something is lacking, it should be discussed with the father or mother or caretakers. However, there are some ignorant parents who believe that when something is reported to them, the person wants to control their child. Every incident concerning a child should be thoroughly investigated and if found to be legitimate, nipped in the bud.
24. It is of paramount importance that all parents have the last say in choosing their children's clothing. Do not buy clothing which are revealing for your daughters, and do not allow your children to demand of you what to buy, but still be aware of fashion. I have seen mothers and fathers who brought pants which were about seven inches from waist to hem for their preteen and early teen daughters. Such have a long way to go when it comes to proper parenting. Parents also suffer from peer pressure from other parents who are not as careful with their children as they are. Too many preteen girls today are dressed like prostitutes, and the parents who purchase the clothing are at fault. If your teen daughters are not selling anything, do not advertise it, this is ungodly. Do not raise thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness. Do not purchase trousers for your male school child which expose his underwear or buttock. This is a very disgusting fashion which should be banned from every public place. Several times I have been to restaurants and while eating, was confronted with exposed underwear and buttocks, twice I had to change seats, and after that I was finished with that fast-food restaurant. In a day as today when many belts are sold, it bothers me why such ignorant people purchase a pants for $300 and cannot purchase a $20 belt.
25. Train your sons to be gentlemen, gentlemen do not go to public places, especially restaurants with such gross attire. You parents must raise your boy children to be gentlemen in every way; if at manhood they stray, you can go to your grave knowing you have done your part. No man could come to my home dressed like this, furthermore come to my daughter, this is disrespectful and disgusting. Ask those who wear such, what is the reason and see what answer you get. You can judge most people by how they dress, or tell what kind of parents they have. Teach them to respect every female, tell them gentlemen do not call females by those derogatory names now heard on those rap videos. Tell your daughters not to associate with such men, a gentleman is one who respects a female.
26. Do not allow your school daughters to attend those ungodly festivals dressed in only panties and braziers, teach them how ladies should dress and behave at all times. A decent self respecting lady would not be caught dressed like this outside her bedroom. Look around at our society today and see what you parents have produced, allowed or accepted. Look at what you parents see as enjoyment where your daughters and sons are now dressed in very little clothing, on the streets doing every sexual dance without any shame. This Almighty God labels as the behaviour of Sodom and Gomorrah and the judgement will be the same. Poor parenting paves the road which leads them and their children to hell. Not one of those revelers has ever seen heaven and none will. Until you parents can see holy that which Almighty God sees as holy, the gates of heaven will remain closed to you parents and your poorly raised children alike. Why are you parents so shock and surprise at the deterioration of this earth? You produced this. Almighty God has a special place prepared for ungodly parents, for you have played a major role in destroying his earth.
27. It is also very important to tell your girl children that if they grow up to be very popular, it still is not lady like to be on stage or before the public in very little or no clothing having men do every inconceivable act with them. I wish the older ladies is society would get back into the habit of speaking to some of those underage mothers on how they should dress and how to dress their children, especially the girls.
28. The most disgraceful scenes I have witnessed in my part of the world are poorly dressed mothers carrying their toddlers to school on mornings, this is sad, especially those who live within walking distance of the schools. I have witnessed many in their nighties and some in pulled up petticoats carrying their children to school. Such are very poor examples. Young mothers need to know what is expected of a mother of any age. Mothers have a very long way to go to get back control of themselves and their children. Everything that was once looked down on is now accepted in society as the norm.
29. Do you ask your children to give account for any of their possessions which you did not purchase for them, or do you see such as gifts from Almighty God. It is your job to nip such in the bud, this is the start of a life of disaster for a child which usually grows into a monster. I have heard thousands of parents say "I do not want my children to grow up like I did". This has two sides, either you do not want them to grow up with the strict discipline your parents taught you, or you are going to teach them even greater values. The latter should always prevail. Giving a child everything he or she wants makes them a happy child, but discipline gives them value.
30. Children imitate their parents, so it is very important to set Godly examples for your children. If you cohabitate, your children will see it as being all right. If you dress slack in public, they will think this is acceptable and grow up dressing the same ungodly way. If you are pregnant or have children and you are not married, they will think that this is acceptable, and will do the same. Do you ever take your children to Church? Do you ever engage them in healthy spiritual conversations? Do you ever sit down with their teachers over their poor grades? Do you find the time to teach them how to cook or be handy around the house? These skills will prove handy when they become home owners and have children of their own.
31. Too many children are abandoned by their parents. A child can be abandoned even while living in the same home with both parents. Even though many children have the best of food, clothes, and the latest in technology, half of those same children are still abandoned. Often I have seen the computers and many other electronic devices replace the parents. Many parents are only parents in giving lunch money and providing necessities, but then the electronics do the rest.
32. Family time has now become obsolete, even if there is a family gathering there is no conversation. Go to any restaurant, everyone including the parents, have their heads buried in some electronic device. No one is willing to put them down, not even to eat. This is not only distracting, but bad table manners. Electronics are great, but are we willing to compromise our family time for them? If this world is to get back any semblance of family togetherness, the electronics must be put aside occasionally for family time instead of them being one's constant companion.
33. I witnessed a child being rude to his mother, and he was sent to his room for the rest of the night. His room had a computer, satellite TV, I phone, play-station, and a DVD player. He was in his element.
34. Children now have very few wholesome friendships, they have traded their neighbours for hundreds of electronic friends. Can one have a friend whom one has never seen? It seems as though today friends do not have to prove themselves worthy, one can now click a friend, seriously! I have few friends, but I know for sure, these, if I have a problem will be there in a few minutes. Children have now neglected cooking, kitchen gardening and animal rearing. I was told by a friend that the computers now come with kitchens, animals and gardens. The kitchen must be attended to or the food will burn and the animals and gardens must be fed and watered on time or they will die. How interesting, but sad. This world should do its best not to allow scouting, 4H groups and girl guiding to die, these have produced many resourceful children. There are other groups which can be helpful too, but they also seem to be preparing your children for war.
35. Parenting is a long slow process, but can be very rewarding if the parents realize from early that children are important to the future existence of this world. How you rear them will be the world you create for them. The way I am seeing some of you parents going, if you do not change course, you will retard the replenishing of this earth.
36. Every parent who brings up a child without giving him Almighty God, even though he is a graduate, has failed in their responsibility as being a good parent. Leaving Almighty God and the Church out of child rearing is a disaster waiting to happen, and it will. Almighty God knew from the beginning that parenting would not be easy, so He gave man his word as a helper. He is the Parent of parents, that is why we call him the Supreme Being, He knows what is best. There is not one parental problem where the solution is not found on the pages of this Holy First Covenant. If you nourish your child on the Holy First Covenant and take him to Church, you would reduce the ills of society and give him heaven as a gift.
37. Let me share a personal testimony with all. I was raised in a very loving home, my grandmother was the spiritual leader of that home and it was very closely knitted. One of her many sermons was on forgiveness. She died many years ago and we all missed her dearly.
Just before my ministry started my family and I had a very bad misunderstanding and had not spoken for years, but my grandmother's favourite sermon on forgiveness made me very uncomfortable and kept ringing in my ears until Almighty God said it was time to returned to my family. Going back to them was easy and I was well accepted and the bond is even greater than it was before. Why? Because we were all raised on the same sermons. The Holy scriptures are what today's children need most, along with holy parents. A child without Holy Scriptures to fall back on is lost, when trouble comes, he will always make the wrong decision. Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
38. If you want your child to remain grounded, take him to Church and spend some quality time with him in the Holy First Covenant. If you want your child to remain focus, place the Holy First Covenant before his eyes each day. It is by far cheaper to bring up a child in the right way than to correct him as an adult. If you do not correct your child in the early, later on the correctional centres will do it for you as it has been doing for millions of wayward parents.
39. Spend some quality time with your child today in the word of Almighty God, and remember, the Holy First Covenant is now rewritten for the family.
40. I considered myself to have been raised in a decent family but a lot of the above information was lacking. I started off my late teens with multiple mistakes and struggled for many years. I made it through mostly by trial and error. If this information was available to me, my life would have been a breeze. Added to the above information it is of paramount importance to choose your friends carefully, I didn't and suffered for it. I then trimmed them down to less than can be counted on one hand and my life skyrocketed, however I still have many acquaintances. Just any and everyone cannot be my friend, my standards are way higher than before.
Teaching # 10
Teens, sex and parenting
1. Parenting is a gift and a skill at the same time. Having a child will qualify one to be a father or mother, but parenting runs much deeper than this. Almighty God has not called mankind to be only fathers or mothers, but they were called to be parents, a parent is a child raiser. If you are not raising, or have not raised your children because of delinquency, you are not a parent.
2. It may seem a hard thing for teenagers to stay away from premarital sex but it is not impossible. All of the teenagers in the Gardens of Eden did. Why? Their parents, teachers and by extension the entire society were their examples and tutors, it is not left up to them. We grow up in a society where talking about sex is seen as a subject to avoid. We tell our children to stay away from drugs, bad company, alcohol, but few tell them to stay away from premarital sex. This is why we have so many abortions and sexually transmitted diseases on the earth, delinquent parents and wards are often the cause of this.
3. Parents should tell their children everything surrounding sex, giving them also the precautions. Many teenagers are fascinated by driving, many parents give them tips, but also advise them to wait until they acquire the necessary license to go on the road. Is it so hard to tell them that sex requires a marriage license?
4. If we are going to get this earth again up to Almighty God's standards, we have to pay more attention to the youths and their sexuality. We are living in an age where children are giving birth to children and this is accepted as the norm. Many schools do not have sex education on their curriculum, they have all the other academics, but a child born to a child before academics, can destroy all the elements involved in schooling. If we can also blend those subjects in with covenant studies, we would have set the tone to firmly establish that teenage student for life. Every instance where a school child is late, the teacher's duty is to check with the parents to find out the legitimacy of that lateness, this also goes for absenteeism. The teacher and the parents should have such a close relationship, that there is no room for waywardness.
5. Tell them everything which surrounds sex, the dangers, the cautions, the diseases and the pleasures. Counsel them also on healthy lifestyles, courtship, relationships, rejection and what to look for in a prospective husband or wife. Do not see such subjects as unimportant or trivial, such will balance all the other disciplines and by extension the society.
6. Just as we call a hand and a foot by they rightful respectful names, get the children at an early age to address everything surrounding sex by their rightful, respectful names and they will have more respect for them. Sexuality should be seen as such an important part of life that children should be taught only to address its many tenants by their GOD given names.
7. Where do babies come from? I have heard nonsense like, from a stork, or from an airplane. Just as we have counselors for everything else, some parents also need counseling on how to deliver such subjects. I am sure many pastors and health workers who are trained in child counselling can help. This world needs all the help it can get to pull it out of this rut it is presently in, there is nothing wrong with seeking such services, every little help will prove valuable.
8. Tell your children that the filth that is now aired on the airways mostly in what is called rap, hip hop and those many cheap calypsos, are not the lyrics which decent people should be singing and that the masses cannot get any inspiration from them. Also tell them that if they want to be popular in song, to try writing lyrics that can advance this world and make it a better place. Tell them that the poorly clad females and their ungodly behaviour on such videos, along with those females called 'dance hall queens', MUST not be emulated and will cause them to go to hell. Almost all the cheap calypsos I am now hearing in my part of this world is about unhealthy sex and ungodly living. This shows that the writers are very limited spiritually and socially even though some of them may be educated. The fact that such songs are earning thousands tells the state of the minds of the people of this world presently.
9. Gone are the days when parents gave their children a directive once, it must be sometimes half of a dozen times and if the child does not comply, it seems alright. I remember the days when my grandmother only spoke once, or she would just give me 'the look', and it was done. It makes me wonder who is at fault today, the child or the parents. Many things in life will change, but raising a child properly will never change.
10. Parents also should pay keen interest in who their children are dating and have conversations with them. This is the only way you should be comfortable allowing your child to spend time alone with someone of the opposite sex. You would not want your child to go out with a stranger, so do not let that person be a stranger to you. This will also help in combating the common problem in smaller societies where children unknowingly date their own relatives. Get to know them! When you find that something seems suspicious, discuss it, never use dirty expressions to a child, instead of this closing the gap it creates a crater. A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger. And, ye parents, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of Almighty God. This is what most of the children today need.
11. The parent's responsibility is to raise a child from birth to high teens, do not give your preteen to any man or woman to be 'married', this is poor parenting to the fullest. When you give your child to a man or woman, your child should be fully trained and mature enough to take on such a great responsibility. I have seen the many young lives which were destroyed by those 'marriages', such were not ordained by Almighty God. Also instill in your children from early that a marriage is between one man and one woman, and they should not 'marry' anyone who is presently married, polygamy was not ordained by Almighty God. If this world is to go forward we have to again do things Almighty God's way and not by culture or convenience. If children are our future, we must pay by far more attention to our future generations than we have been doing.
12. Do not 'marry' your child to another child under any circumstance, marriage is for adults only. Almighty God has introduce courtship into this world so that a man or a woman can choose their own partner. You do not know if the other child would grow up to be a criminal. When such marriages fail, who does the child blame? The poor parents, this is poor parenting at its highest.
13. A good healthy relationship with your children solves many of their preteen and teenage challenges. Most of all tell your children you love them and want the best for them. Flogging says this the loudest. He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes. Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell. Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive it far from him. One other thing you should never ever try to do is be your child's best friend, this will never turn out right. Being a parent is what you were called to be. Also any person who gets pregnant before the age of eighteen was not called to be a parent, they elected themselves.
14. I know that your Supreme Courts and your many committees on the rights of the child have gone against every law which the Supreme Being has laid down for proper child rearing, but Almighty God's word is what is needed for the replenishing of the earth. For many years you have tried it the Supreme Courts and child committee's way and ended up building more prisons. Is it not time to again try it the Supreme Being's way?
15. The book of Proverbs was once called the 'Child Rearer'. Generation after generation used it and produced a Godly generation, but sadly you took it out of the schools with the result being a rebellious generation, with no respect for Almighty God nor man. For a parent or teacher to past on this knowledge, he must first know it well. A pastor should be assigned to every school just like a Math teacher. Just as every student attends Math for a period, they should also attend Covenant Studies. Math elevates them to university, Covenant Studies to heaven. As in every other discipline, a student must be prepared to be a preacher from school. This is the will of Almighty God.
16. From early also tell them about the dangers of drugs, gambling, illegal guns and excessive alcohol consumption. If possible, show them the outcome of such users. Every parent should take a look at all their children who are now, or were involved with drugs, weapons, murder, rape, or any other ungodly acts, and are menaces or a threat to society. Ask yourself if you have fully played your part as a good parent. The act of parenting produces a society, look around at the society you are living in today, and you be the judge. Train up the child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. Single parenting is no excuse for a poorly raised child, actually there is no excuse for a poorly raised child.
17. Teach them from early the importance of telling the truth, a person who lives a wholesome, spiritual life, has no need to lie, there is nothing to cover up. Instill in them that stealing is wrong and how important it is to be trustworthy and to have a good reputation. Instill in them they must uphold the laws of the land. Peer pressure and bullying must not be left out of your many instructions, those two predators have destroyed many children's lives. Your children are not to be the perpetrators nor the victims. Instill in them that fighting is wrong. Teach them also to have respect for Almighty God's creation. Tell them that injuring animals is not a sport but a sin, and that all who injure an animal, and also those who cheer such ignorant people on, even those attending such events will not see heaven. Tell them only fools run in front of bulls, and those foolish men and women that are killed or injured, GOD sends them back to the earth crippled for not having respect for the healthy body He gave then before.
18. Too many times I have seen parents go to a school to fight with teachers, headmasters and even with other students. An ignorant parent is a child's downfall, but a wise parent listens first and then judges a situation. Every situation in a school can be resolved without this commotion which never once ended favourably for the child. Also teach them to adhere to the laws of the land and respect government property such as buses, bus sheds and washrooms. Also teach them to respect personal signs. I remember being in a foreign country with some adults where a sign read 'Do not take food from the dining room'. I had the authority to speak to them concerning this. Those men and women without having much parental guidance, banded together and made what I spoke to them about seem as if I had committed a crime. They still carried on with their unmannerly behaviour. How can such then raise children properly? Seek to raise your children to have more training than such. Also teach them to respect authority.
19. When a child is going to school, he or she is called a child and not an adult. Can you parents always give an account of the whereabouts of your school child or children? As a police officer, I have seen school children in wild parties after one in the morning where there were guns and drugs, filthy lyrics playing, and many other ungodly acts and the parents were sleeping peacefully at home. How can this be? All such parents should be charged with abandonment. This definitely is poor parenting. You parents, who are caretakers of animals, when evening comes, you bring your young animals into the back yard for their own safety and protection. Does your young school child not deserve this same protection? The club owners are too busy to look after those children you abandon, to them they are just another patron. Who will take care of them for you? Many times it end up being the prison wardens, or the morticians. If every parent looked after their children with more care, this world would be a far better place to live in. Poor parenting destroys a society and by extension the world.
20. Children will make mistakes, but the worst thing that a parent can say when a child makes a mistake is to tell him he is just like his wayward mother or father. That child did not choose his mother or father, you did. Children must not be compared to other children, even identical twins carry different souls, no two souls develop at the same rate. Do not praise one child and neglect the other, all children need to have self-worth. If you have two or more children, try as much as possible to treat them all equally.
21. Do not allow your school child to join any organization at school or any other place where he or she is allowed to carry a gun, whether supervised or not, this is poor parenting. Also tell them from early that taking a life is a sin, and joining the army where they are given the order to kill is also a sin. Tell them that soldiers do not go to heaven and that men that are at their peak of discipline do not carry guns.
22. All adults must understand that when they fall in love or marry someone who has children, those children become a part of them, they too must play their part in the rearing of those children. Almighty God will judge step-fathers and step-mothers and foster parents as He will mothers and fathers.
23. When I use the word parenting, this extends as far as godparents, grandparents, uncles, aunts and Godly neighbours. If any of these see something is lacking, it should be discussed with the father or mother or caretakers. However, there are some ignorant parents who believe that when something is reported to them, the person wants to control their child. Every incident concerning a child should be thoroughly investigated and if found to be legitimate, nipped in the bud.
24. It is of paramount importance that all parents have the last say in choosing their children's clothing. Do not buy clothing which are revealing for your daughters, and do not allow your children to demand of you what to buy, but still be aware of fashion. I have seen mothers and fathers who brought pants which were about seven inches from waist to hem for their preteen and early teen daughters. Such have a long way to go when it comes to proper parenting. Parents also suffer from peer pressure from other parents who are not as careful with their children as they are. Too many preteen girls today are dressed like prostitutes, and the parents who purchase the clothing are at fault. If your teen daughters are not selling anything, do not advertise it, this is ungodly. Do not raise thy daughter, to cause her to be a whore; lest the land fall to whoredom, and the land become full of wickedness. Do not purchase trousers for your male school child which expose his underwear or buttock. This is a very disgusting fashion which should be banned from every public place. Several times I have been to restaurants and while eating, was confronted with exposed underwear and buttocks, twice I had to change seats, and after that I was finished with that fast-food restaurant. In a day as today when many belts are sold, it bothers me why such ignorant people purchase a pants for $300 and cannot purchase a $20 belt.
25. Train your sons to be gentlemen, gentlemen do not go to public places, especially restaurants with such gross attire. You parents must raise your boy children to be gentlemen in every way; if at manhood they stray, you can go to your grave knowing you have done your part. No man could come to my home dressed like this, furthermore come to my daughter, this is disrespectful and disgusting. Ask those who wear such, what is the reason and see what answer you get. You can judge most people by how they dress, or tell what kind of parents they have. Teach them to respect every female, tell them gentlemen do not call females by those derogatory names now heard on those rap videos. Tell your daughters not to associate with such men, a gentleman is one who respects a female.
26. Do not allow your school daughters to attend those ungodly festivals dressed in only panties and braziers, teach them how ladies should dress and behave at all times. A decent self respecting lady would not be caught dressed like this outside her bedroom. Look around at our society today and see what you parents have produced, allowed or accepted. Look at what you parents see as enjoyment where your daughters and sons are now dressed in very little clothing, on the streets doing every sexual dance without any shame. This Almighty God labels as the behaviour of Sodom and Gomorrah and the judgement will be the same. Poor parenting paves the road which leads them and their children to hell. Not one of those revelers has ever seen heaven and none will. Until you parents can see holy that which Almighty God sees as holy, the gates of heaven will remain closed to you parents and your poorly raised children alike. Why are you parents so shock and surprise at the deterioration of this earth? You produced this. Almighty God has a special place prepared for ungodly parents, for you have played a major role in destroying his earth.
27. It is also very important to tell your girl children that if they grow up to be very popular, it still is not lady like to be on stage or before the public in very little or no clothing having men do every inconceivable act with them. I wish the older ladies is society would get back into the habit of speaking to some of those underage mothers on how they should dress and how to dress their children, especially the girls.
28. The most disgraceful scenes I have witnessed in my part of the world are poorly dressed mothers carrying their toddlers to school on mornings, this is sad, especially those who live within walking distance of the schools. I have witnessed many in their nighties and some in pulled up petticoats carrying their children to school. Such are very poor examples. Young mothers need to know what is expected of a mother of any age. Mothers have a very long way to go to get back control of themselves and their children. Everything that was once looked down on is now accepted in society as the norm.
29. Do you ask your children to give account for any of their possessions which you did not purchase for them, or do you see such as gifts from Almighty God. It is your job to nip such in the bud, this is the start of a life of disaster for a child which usually grows into a monster. I have heard thousands of parents say "I do not want my children to grow up like I did". This has two sides, either you do not want them to grow up with the strict discipline your parents taught you, or you are going to teach them even greater values. The latter should always prevail. Giving a child everything he or she wants makes them a happy child, but discipline gives them value.
30. Children imitate their parents, so it is very important to set Godly examples for your children. If you cohabitate, your children will see it as being all right. If you dress slack in public, they will think this is acceptable and grow up dressing the same ungodly way. If you are pregnant or have children and you are not married, they will think that this is acceptable, and will do the same. Do you ever take your children to Church? Do you ever engage them in healthy spiritual conversations? Do you ever sit down with their teachers over their poor grades? Do you find the time to teach them how to cook or be handy around the house? These skills will prove handy when they become home owners and have children of their own.
31. Too many children are abandoned by their parents. A child can be abandoned even while living in the same home with both parents. Even though many children have the best of food, clothes, and the latest in technology, half of those same children are still abandoned. Often I have seen the computers and many other electronic devices replace the parents. Many parents are only parents in giving lunch money and providing necessities, but then the electronics do the rest.
32. Family time has now become obsolete, even if there is a family gathering there is no conversation. Go to any restaurant, everyone including the parents, have their heads buried in some electronic device. No one is willing to put them down, not even to eat. This is not only distracting, but bad table manners. Electronics are great, but are we willing to compromise our family time for them? If this world is to get back any semblance of family togetherness, the electronics must be put aside occasionally for family time instead of them being one's constant companion.
33. I witnessed a child being rude to his mother, and he was sent to his room for the rest of the night. His room had a computer, satellite TV, I phone, play-station, and a DVD player. He was in his element.
34. Children now have very few wholesome friendships, they have traded their neighbours for hundreds of electronic friends. Can one have a friend whom one has never seen? It seems as though today friends do not have to prove themselves worthy, one can now click a friend, seriously! I have few friends, but I know for sure, these, if I have a problem will be there in a few minutes. Children have now neglected cooking, kitchen gardening and animal rearing. I was told by a friend that the computers now come with kitchens, animals and gardens. The kitchen must be attended to or the food will burn and the animals and gardens must be fed and watered on time or they will die. How interesting, but sad. This world should do its best not to allow scouting, 4H groups and girl guiding to die, these have produced many resourceful children. There are other groups which can be helpful too, but they also seem to be preparing your children for war.
35. Parenting is a long slow process, but can be very rewarding if the parents realize from early that children are important to the future existence of this world. How you rear them will be the world you create for them. The way I am seeing some of you parents going, if you do not change course, you will retard the replenishing of this earth.
36. Every parent who brings up a child without giving him Almighty God, even though he is a graduate, has failed in their responsibility as being a good parent. Leaving Almighty God and the Church out of child rearing is a disaster waiting to happen, and it will. Almighty God knew from the beginning that parenting would not be easy, so He gave man his word as a helper. He is the Parent of parents, that is why we call him the Supreme Being, He knows what is best. There is not one parental problem where the solution is not found on the pages of this Holy First Covenant. If you nourish your child on the Holy First Covenant and take him to Church, you would reduce the ills of society and give him heaven as a gift.
37. Let me share a personal testimony with all. I was raised in a very loving home, my grandmother was the spiritual leader of that home and it was very closely knitted. One of her many sermons was on forgiveness. She died many years ago and we all missed her dearly.
Just before my ministry started my family and I had a very bad misunderstanding and had not spoken for years, but my grandmother's favourite sermon on forgiveness made me very uncomfortable and kept ringing in my ears until Almighty God said it was time to returned to my family. Going back to them was easy and I was well accepted and the bond is even greater than it was before. Why? Because we were all raised on the same sermons. The Holy scriptures are what today's children need most, along with holy parents. A child without Holy Scriptures to fall back on is lost, when trouble comes, he will always make the wrong decision. Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
38. If you want your child to remain grounded, take him to Church and spend some quality time with him in the Holy First Covenant. If you want your child to remain focus, place the Holy First Covenant before his eyes each day. It is by far cheaper to bring up a child in the right way than to correct him as an adult. If you do not correct your child in the early, later on the correctional centres will do it for you as it has been doing for millions of wayward parents.
39. Spend some quality time with your child today in the word of Almighty God, and remember, the Holy First Covenant is now rewritten for the family.
40. I considered myself to have been raised in a decent family but a lot of the above information was lacking. I started off my late teens with multiple mistakes and struggled for many years. I made it through mostly by trial and error. If this information was available to me, my life would have been a breeze. Added to the above information it is of paramount importance to choose your friends carefully, I didn't and suffered for it. I then trimmed them down to less than can be counted on one hand and my life skyrocketed, however I still have many acquaintances. Just any and everyone cannot be my friend, my standards are way higher than before.